What Will Be Your Outcome?

There is an ongoing battle for your soul that plays out in real time, most dramatically during moments of crisis.  Will you follow your path of greatest advantage? Or, will you yield in the direction of least resistance? 

Our task is to get you through a difficult and important developmental passage: From dependence on a substance or activity to the capability of acting in accord with your interests and principles.  Animals and young children have little choice but to follow the cause-and-effect principles that determine their behavior, and so can easily be lured into a trap by attractive bait.  Your task is to rise above the cause-and-effect principles that maintain an addictive trap so that you can perform as intended, even when local conditions would motivate you to relapse. 

Part of our challenge is that each person, and hence each addictive trap, is different.  Strategies that are useful to some people are often worthless and sometimes harmful to others.  For this reason, the work we do has to be well matched with what you need.  So I encourage you to be the director of our team and take the lead as much as possible, and keep our collaboration focused on the real challenges you face. 

My contribution is to give you access to a knowledge base acquired from working with many people facing a challenge similar to yours. Though each adventure is unique, there is much for you to learn about the nature of this undertaking, some of the standard pitfalls, and their solutions.  We will identify your particular traps and help you develop the skills and strengths you will need to perform well during crises.

Like athletic or artistic performance, the ability to perform well when the stakes are high is the by-product of preparation and practice.  The measure of our work together is how you actually perform during your high-risk situations.  I won’t be with you at these moments, so we must prepare you during this window of opportunity you have.

There are links to a wide range of tools around this page. A good place to start is learning how to exercise will in a crisis.